WHY DON’T YOU LIKE ME? – Pushing love away

 

Been seeing some posts about someone not loving you back and it’s their bad luck because they pushed away the person who loved them.

Do people just feel that their love does someone a favour just because it’s love? It’s really hard to push someone away because you can’t love them back but it’s better to let them go than to stay with them because they love to love you. I think I’d rather let a person go find someone who loves them back than to let them stay while I get love at their expense.

 

Everyone has reasons…the heart wants what the heart wants, if it’s not you, it’s not you, and if they let you stay, they’ll suffer, and they still will explode one day that you’re smothering them…take your love somewhere else without making it look like those people are terrible people..we all have choices to make. The choice may have been hard for them too.

 

When people tell me “I will stop calling you” or “I won’t text you anymore” I wonder what they want me to do with that information, I still won’t reply, that wasn’t a threat because I don’t feel endangered, you just took a big yoke off my neck. If I liked liked you, I wouldn’t give you a reason to feel like you need to go away. And you can quietly go away without reading lines off a script.

 

Do not go about feeling like you are the saviour of someone’s life because you love them or buy things for them or chat with them or run to rescue them when they need a knight in shining armor, all these things are good, but sometime’s they feel bad for themselves, and for you, because some things won’t change…and don’t push for reasons because you may never recover from their excuse. Just thank them, wish them the best and go.

 

I know this is really hard, trust me. But don’t hate or make fun of a person because they couldn’t like you back. That’s just sour grapes. I am sure you too have some people that you can’t love back or cannot imagine being with. It’s not karma, it’s the great circle of life…lol

 

I hope we all find someone, and if we never do, I hope that we still live happy lives, but don’t even think that your love is good for some particular person just because love is somewhat scarce.

 

If someone makes you feel like they don’t want…nicely understand. You are both in very difficult places, be understanding, don’t be selfish, if it’s love, wish them well lovingly and move on. Grapefruits are not grapes and lemons are not oranges, it’s crazy but it’s this stupid thing you guys call love

BEING OWED AND IGNORED BY DEBTOR

IF YOU OWE SOMEONE, and you know you cannot pay, it’s better to ask for mercy than to give false hope or to ignore them or insult them when they ask for their right.

 
IF YOU VOWED IN CHURCH or pledged to pay or you owe tithe or offering, sincerely ask GOD for mercy and move on, don’t let any pastor or spiritual leader make you believe that you will be under a curse or God will visit you with judgement or the following bad things that will happen to you are your punishment for not fulfilling your vow.
 
KNOW THIS Jesus gave a parable of a king that forgave a huge debt. He was only mad that this forgiven fellow did not forgive his mate who owed him less. God does not need your 50k, so don’t think He is having sleepless nights planning your revenge.
 
IF YOU OWE SOMEONE AND YOU KNOW WHAT IT TOOK THEM TO GIVE YOU THAT STUFF, and you know how to get the cash to repay them, don’t be heartless, pay up, or beg them to understand and extend your due date or plan to pay in installments, just don’t ignore them, remember Scriptures, He that repayeth evil for good, evil will never leave his house, Prov 17:3
 
If you somehow pledged in church and cannot pay and asked God for forgiveness and you moved on, but you will not forgive someone who owes you less and has actually begged you (although some people are to proud to beg for forgiveness) then that’s where the problem lies.
 
IF SOMEONE OWES YOU and you know they are too wicked or to broke to repay you and you automatically forgive them, or even pray to GOD to provide for the broke ones or have mercy on the evil ones, just believe that God who sees the heart, will definitely repay you, so if you can, let it go and if you go to the law concerning the wicked ones, you won’t be wrong! And please, if you owe, pay up or humbly ask for reconsideration.

NO MAN IS KEEPING HIMSELF FOR YOU

Last weekend, I unveiled my printer. There was no ceremony, lol, it’s just that I forgot to buy printing paper, and then on the way I remembered and said meh, I might have some test paper at home. That’s how I left it in the box for almost a week.

Finally, I did all the opening on Saturday. Transparent plastic removal, cord-releasing, ink sachet tearing, fresh smell-inhaling and said “hmmmm, like a virgin”…and I laughed alone.

    Some people have asked why I don’t drink saying “Is it for religious reasons or personal principles?” I’ll apply that question to why I don’t think it’s outdated and uncool to keep my legs closed… Is it because Jesus wants us to, or just my own personal principles? Well both of them, and I must add health reasons too, and psychological balance, ergo because Jesus says so, since all these other reasons are part of his plan.

I will never forget a married man in 2012 who taught he would never give up. As usual I didn’t tell him whether or not I had been with anyone, he just started preaching and he was the one who dropped the “No man is keeping himself for you” line. In fact if you are Nigerian, he said it like this “…no man is keeping himself for you O, you future husband will be somewhere now sleeping with other women and you want to form good girl”

O….but isn’t that grace? Isn’t that what marriage is about? Unmerited favour, overlooking, forgiveness, third chances, don’t you just feel special when God loves you in spite of how terrible you are and he still daily loads you with benefits?

(I’m not saying you shouldn’t care if your spouse has an STD from careless choices but let’s save that for another post)

WHAT’S THE COMPETITION?
In the same vein, a new friend I just made said that there is a possibility that if you marry a spouse who was as chaste as you were, he won’t value your chastity, to him it’s no big deal, he did it too.

(A weird mentality for any man to possess, not totally impossible, but it’s debatable.)

Let me see,… it’s not a competition that we’re bringing into the wedding night now is it? :


“Aha! You’re not a virgin, I said it” like when you finally see the meat your sister hid under her rice

“You’re not one either, who taught you how to unlock a bra?” Index finger abruptly pointing like it’s testing the temperature of a red hot coal

“Why would you judge me simply because I unlocked a bra?” Straight face, mouth open

“Wait, is this what our relationship has been about? How we’ll land on this bed and find out if we lied about our histories? Marriage is 5% sex and 95% living together” voice of a preacher lady

“O, so now you’re Myles Munroe” shaking head frantically

“What has gotten into you?” Looking surprised and confused

“You lieeeeeeeeddddddddd” eyes popping out of the sockets

“Who doesn’t?” Looking around like she just defended the helpless

“So now our marriage is based on a lie” sits up back against the headboard

“Please, you’re over-reacting” turns to the side, adjusts pillow

“How is this overreacting?” Voice turned up by one notch

“Did you ask me to marry you because you wanted to marry a virgin or because you wanted to be with me?” Trying to play cool

“I thought you were youuuuuuu, for youuuuuuu” presents an invisible her to her with palms open and facing the ceiling

“By a hymen?” Taciturn as a mafian don

“You didn’t have to lie”

“You didn’t have to sleep with other girls too before you proposed to me, now those girls are going to their husbands hymen-less” DJ turning it up too now

“At least those girls won’t lie”

“You shouldda married them” the last word landed on high note
“There’s no themmmmm, it’s you I wanted”
“So, we’re here now, what’s the big deal”
“You liedddddddd”
“O, so it’s not about the hymen?”
“No, it’s the lieeeee”
“Really….but you lied too”
“How?”
“How did you learn to unlock a bra?”
“O, thaaaat???” Points at the door like ‘it’ just walked out
“Yeap” feeling like Olivier Pope
“I see it on TVeeeeeee”
“Hmm…. I fell off a mango tree and split my legs apart”
“Is that another lie?”
“Please sleep, our friends and family think we’re married, some of them haven’t taken their shoes off yet”
“Wheeeeeeeeeeeeeeew….. I’m a married man” sarcastically…. “Strike one”
“Meh, I love you two”

Back to my blog…On my part, I would give respects to anyone who would keep themselves till they’re twenty five, or more (as singles I mean). Cos I know how much principle is required to do that and how how much discipline is applied in waiting, especially when you finally found a worthy man and you like him, and he’s hot.

My case has never been that of a lack of opportunity, it must be the OCPD or the Relationship OCPD that wants everything perfect, that wants to see the end.

WHAT IF NEVER?
I remember some guy in 2012, he wasn’t bad, he just didn’t get any, at least frm me, not even a hug, he said “Don’t go and die a virgin o, sex is sweet, you don’t want to miss out” Blah…. Thanks for the publicity!

I remember clearly earlier, in my pre-teens, one teenage meeting during an Agape Force convention, (I wasn’t in my teens yet, so in the group, I just had one leg in, but I liked the group), as an admonition, don’t know what led to it, Oge said, “if having sex will make me miss heaven, let me die before sex” I have never forgotten that line, maybe everyone else has but the picture of that meeting is still clear even now as I write.

Funny though, one time I was talking to Kimberly, I said, if Christ comes and people are being taken up in the sky, I might just give that puppy frown and say “it’s not fair God, I didn’t have sex..whyyyyyy?” And she, being married laughed and replied, “Is that better than going to heaven???”
Actually when that day comes, I won’t be thinking of anything else, the most supreme Groom is here, let’s go!

BUT HERE’S MORE:
This post is not intended to create any hype.
It is possible to still have a hymen and yet be sexually impure. Or to be sexually pure and still have other ‘issues’ with God, or issues that make you difficult to live with or make you unbearable in a human society, that people wonder how your family copes with you and pity in advance for the man you end up with.

It’s also possible to be the sweetest girl in the world and still be a door, because you gave your heart to someone, got abused, made some mistakes.

It also is likely that you were ignorant before, had no one to talk to you, weren’t exposed to the idea of self-respect, assertiveness, self pride and esteem or you just had to earn a living somehow, or go up the social ladder, but in your heart you’re still virtuous.

My darling God takes what’s ‘broken’ and makes it beautiful.

If you come to God, telling him how much you need him, you won’t just start life all over, he can take you from where you are and make you a centre of attraction, a brand new, priceless treasure. It’s about the eye that sees you and how He sees you.

If I get a used toaster from my sister’s kitchen and bring into mine, I might even value it more than she ever did, or more than my other new appliances which I pulled out of the box.

Who knows, there may really be no man keeping himself for you, but there’s a king who’s praying for the best, despite his initial bad taste and shortcomings, that’s value!

It’s the eye that sees you, as priceless!
It’s precious, and it’s mine….my Precious! (No, not Smeagul)

If you talk to any well-meaning elderly woman, they’ll always end it with “it’s better to wait” every one likes their delivery sealed and intact, whether it’s pizza, letters or cars.

*As for the drama, they made up and made out and lived happily ever after..hehe*

Above all, guard your heart with all diligence…if your heart is guarded, you’ll make sound choices. 🙂

What happened to love?

Everyone’s just scheming here and manipulating there, some of us are just trying to find love and be happy so can everyone else please stopping making the entire pack look bad?

I don’t know how love became a game or how we became so surrounded by all these unwritten rules, too many mind games, there’s an answer for every issue when you google it, from experience, cause and effect, it’s happened before, this is how it turned out…can’t we just let go and let love? Do we realise that people are different and what worked for another may not work for you?

What does it matter who falls first?…don’t you just want to be happy and enjoy the quality feeling of being a part of someone else’s happiness?

Are we still waiting for who buzzes first? Is this what it’s been reduced to?

What happened to love?

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WANNA LEARN A NEW SKILL THAT WILL EXCITE HIM?

I’m desperate about my dreams…maybe you oughta be too.

My desire for excellence is birthed out of my desire to give God glory…keep telling myself, “God cannot be put to shame through me” PGF, we’re not here to look at faces.

I can’t say “I will do anything to achieve them…” It’s His work, He’s runs this… But there are a few new things I have done and a few more that I can’t promise you that I won’t do… Cos I don’t want no shouldawouldacouldas, if I fail, the things I will regret the most would be the things I didn’t do, when I could and they would have cost me nothing, or little…no holding back…my dream is my love, and like I do love, I’ll do this, throwing in everything I got, no holding back…a little pride gone but on payday, we’ll remember…we’ll remember…it’s all coming back to me, better…

    2nd Cor 4:17 For our light and momentary troubles are achieving for us an eternal glory that far outweighs them all.

She’s crazy, she’s desperate, it’s alright if God is on my side, Power to get ‘wealth’ huh? What’s all this energy for if I’m going to waste it?… I know what I heard…tell me about Noah’s Ark, Gen 6:15-22

    Trusting time and chance but living faith without worksIf I touch, If I touch…she was desperate…she pressed… Trusting grace, not of works, because all things are working for me, my job is to believe, so bless the WORKS of my hands

All that fragrance on Jesus feet, what was she trying to achieve? Did you just break the ceiling to let in a paralysed man? So just to get more wine, He told you His time hadn’t come yet you gave his disciples the reporting line…hmm…matrix organisation structure… The other lady who went Luke 18-ing on the judge for justice, he didn’t care, he didn’t fear God…but she got it! Moses was so die-hard, plague upon plague till His people were released…who turns back on the first NO these days?

    Dreams don’t die, people lose hope, scoring didn’t become harder, we learnt the rules and stopped thinking outside the box. Remember when you were younger and you thought that all things are possible? That’s how God wants us to keep thinking.

Child-like faith. But now we’re scared of what people will say. If you’re always on the lookout for the opinions of others, they will control you, confuse and mess you up. Many times they don’t even know what they want from you, their choices are controversial, their needs insatiable, you didn’t come to earth but for God’s glory, His purpose for you and His pleasure…..told you already, PGF, you understand the call better, it was you God spoke to, keep moving…Hope maketh not ashamed, you’ll get there…

Abraham didn’t know where he was going but he moved his family out, Joseph only had a dream but he moved his pregnant wife to Egypt, what was David thinking pouncing on a lion to save one tiny lamb? Did Jesus have to be so obsessed and consumed by His mission? To die? For love? For his Goals?

Are you still sitting down? As long as you’re not hurting anyone or breaking God’s heart, make that move. I know we’re meant to soar but there’s something called Pressing toward the mark…determination. Do you have actions behind your faith?

I’m not asking you to birth an Ishmael, I’m saying borrow barrels even though you have just a jar of oil…that’s just crazy…but it tickles God…faith excites God…

We’re created for more, see big, see more, don’t limit God by lowering your expectations…stay humble in your journey but think Greater Works…Believe!

    Heb 3:19 So we see that they were not able to enter, because of their unbelief.

Without faith, it is IMPOSSIBLE to please God!!!

We wait, we cast our bread, we watch, we pray, we believe…

Sometimes He says stand still, sometimes He says move… Follow your call and encourage others to do same; more love, less judgement…When you hear a voice saying “This is the way, walk in it”…just walk…that’s the only voice you need for that season, for every season 😀

*Noah’s energy…Noah’s Ark…They laughed but He followed the call, I know what I heard…

I am Hovasabee, and this is the Gospel according to Love #GreaterWorks

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