ASK “WHAT ARE YOU AFRAID OF?” not “WHO DO YOU THINK YOU ARE?”

 

 

Fear and Pride both go before a fall, be understanding and patient enough to tell the difference.Β People rashly mistake FEAR 4 PRIDE. Someone who walks away or refuses to show up to have his work analysed or criticized would easily be mistaken for being proud. Many times too when you delay an apology, people conclude that you are proud, when in fact you’re scared of being rejected.

A lot more thought should go into our human relationships, people are not simple, babies are. Life makes us complex so be more curious about why people act the way they do. To lead, mentor, be a good parent, guardian or just friend, you should try to use the other perspective. Although some reactions are pretty obvious, even anger can be an expression of fear! relax…take it easy πŸ™‚

If God is love…and I am Love…

I am Love, and when we were kids, we had this big picture on the wall at home, at the bottom it read “Love is Jesus”. So is it alright if I said…If God is Love, and I am Love, then you can see me and see the Father, I am God.

There are many things, many purposes, many causes on earth that God will send ministers to handle, He will not appear to do them, but He places us on earth as extensions of His love, of His hands. So even if your name is not Love, you are like the Father, so let his love abide in you. Go out there and be someone’s angel. They may never see God, but they see you and they can feel his love through you!

Starting With What You Have: The Scholarship

It has always been my dream to provide affordable or free education in my society, (to mention but one of these basic necessities I intend to help people with to improve their quality of living).

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My life is not perfect,…yet…but I have always had the culture of sharing my resources with people who have less, who need it, people I know and those I don’t. My siblings and I learnt it from our parents.

I had a friend of mine from my department in my previous University place an announcement for applications for Financial Aid for students from low-income homes in the Department’s Facebook Group.

I didn’t want them to know it was me, and they had to send the essay “How Education Has Changed My Life” to an email address that I have, and I’m sure they wouldn’t guess was mine. I graduated in 2011, so they wouldn’t guess…I think, I’m sure.

Another friend of mine wants me to make it a real scholarship with my name attached to it, but I’m like, I really just want to share from my own monthly scholarship money for now, I’m not some rich lady (yet) trying to give away a huge sum. I want to start with connecting first of all, starting from my own home university where I graduated from, to connect with someone like me, someone who is eager to learn, who seizes opportunities, someone who needs the cash to live relatively more comfortably while they study, and not to stress about the many financial cares of this world…lol

When I was still in the University of Benin, I would just walk up to the freshman class in my department and reach anyone I was led to with what I had, just to encourage them.

(In another post I will share with you how somehow in 2015, one of the students in 100 level I encouraged with a small cash gift (in 2008) for being a good goalkeeper for our team, helped me in Abuja on the eve of my passport appointment (about 2 a.m September 2015), when I was stranded. I didn’t even know his name, but my friend Emmanuel kept calling his name as if I knew him and it didn’t ring any bell).

Giving is my life, education is one of my passions and this could get big in future, it will get big, but my dilemma now is, should I tell them it’s me? I have a good reputation in the department, but I don’t want too much formalities to slow down this process, the deadline is 30th March, no one has responded yet.

My friend who lectures in the department made an announcement to the students and some of them screamed “How Much?” I laughed and said “That’s cute but that’s not what I’m looking for. I want to connect with someone, someone who doesn’t care how much it is, someone who has a hunch and the passion and goes for it, someone like me, it sounds selfish but someone like me”. The amount is relatively big anyway, it’s my biggest giveaway, and I’m happy just thinking about it, knowing that I’m going to put a smile on someone’s face from behind the heavy drapes without showing my face I guess, and peep and watch as that person or those two students rejoice, as I do, everytime my application goes through.

Now I know what it feels like to be on the other side of a scholarship application, or perhaps. It seems small now, but I know it’s going to get bigger. And I’m glad already. It’s something I should have started as part of my NGO in 2015 before I left for school, but it’s never too late. Let’s help improve someone’s life, let’s make education less of a burden, let’s promote a good cause.

 

BEING OWED AND IGNORED BY DEBTOR

IF YOU OWE SOMEONE, and you know you cannot pay, it’s better to ask for mercy than to give false hope or to ignore them or insult them when they ask for their right.

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IF YOU VOWED IN CHURCH or pledged to pay or you owe tithe or offering, sincerely ask GOD for mercy and move on, don’t let any pastor or spiritual leader make you believe that you will be under a curse or God will visit you with judgement or the following bad things that will happen to you are your punishment for not fulfilling your vow.
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KNOW THIS Jesus gave a parable of a king that forgave a huge debt. He was only mad that this forgiven fellow did not forgive his mate who owed him less. God does not need your 50k, so don’t think He is having sleepless nights planning your revenge.
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IF YOU OWE SOMEONE AND YOU KNOW WHAT IT TOOK THEM TO GIVE YOU THAT STUFF, and you know how to get the cash to repay them, don’t be heartless, pay up, or beg them to understand and extend your due date or plan to pay in installments, just don’t ignore them, remember Scriptures, He that repayeth evil for good, evil will never leave his house, Prov 17:3
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If you somehow pledged in church and cannot pay and asked God for forgiveness and you moved on, but you will not forgive someone who owes you less and has actually begged you (although some people are to proud to beg for forgiveness) then that’s where the problem lies.
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IF SOMEONE OWES YOU and you know they are too wicked or to broke to repay you and you automatically forgive them, or even pray to GOD to provide for the broke ones or have mercy on the evil ones, just believe that God who sees the heart, will definitely repay you, so if you can, let it go and if you go to the law concerning the wicked ones, you won’t be wrong! And please, if you owe, pay up or humbly ask for reconsideration.

Don’t Panic, Take it Easy, It will pass

aludo-love-hovasabeeThis may not work for everyone but here’s my story,

Toward the end of last year, I was super stressed. O I thought I was going to just fail all my exams and retake or forfeit my scholarship. There was so much to read that I hadn’t opened, plus we needed to find a place in Madrid, and two more exams to go, out of which I have to write three papers, while everyone in my class writes two.

So Lupo’s deadline is on the 7th, the next is on the 14th, o God no.

On Friday morning, I still didnt have a topic. That was the 6th. Just kill me.

 

I wrote an email to my prof saying that I wanted to retake…so imagine requesting to retake when the due date hadn’t even come. At 6pm that evening, I tried to get to it. I prayed. God help me.

6,000 words, tomorrow, I don’t have a topic. Prof is yet to reply me, maybe he doesn’t want to because of the holidays. Immediately after a topic hit me, I felt a rush, I went to bathe, and I Β was hungry, but Hola, in Madrid, all the stores were closed, it was the Festival of 3kings. The chinese were awake but they only accept cash.

 

I had a topic, I had a card, I was hungry, it was 8pm, I hadn’t eaten all day, my deadline is tomorrow. Can’t kill myself, I went back home, made spaghetti and slept.

What ever should happen should come and happen abeg…I woke up at 1:30pm Β the next day…lol…but guess what, I submitted before 7th January midnight, I didnt add all my references because I didn’t want to be late to submit, but I read it this evening and it looked good.

I hope I get good grades. It was ok for a one night stand…

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COUNTDOWN TO LEAVE HIM

Today’s date was amazing, πŸ™‚ Β but it’s just a number, no he’s not.

He’s not just a number, I don’t know if it’s going to last or not, they hardly ever do. Just say no to sex or when they get handsy and you’ll never see them again.

And I don’t know if this guy’s just really cool or building up and marking time, but he seemed really cool.

Before I went out to meet him I had told my friend that look, he and I had a chat fight this morning,(actually I was the only one venting) and he’s acting really normal, I have to wear bullet proof tonight cos it looks like he wants to snipe me…lol

What started it? I asked him to resend any messages I may have missed since Samsung cleared my entire phone (apps, contacts, whatsapp, etc) and he sent me a screenshot. Behold, he saved my number as “Niger”…and it was funny but I kinda got mad like “I’m not even sure you know my name” called him stupid, said I didn’t want to be his friend anymore, then I came back and said I was sorry, but I still don’t wanna be your friend anymore, and he said cool.

We already planned a date for tonight so I thought it would be over, but it wasn’ttttttttt. Since we’re cool again (how many times have I used that word?) I went out, we had a nice time, and i didn’t get a whole bunch of what he was saying because I’m still learning Italian, but thanks to Google translate, we still had so much fun. And then at some point, he said in Italian “this is the same girl who called me stupid today” I heard that, and we just laughed, in a scary movie that would be the part where he would pull out a gun.

Why am I so dark?

I don’t wanna know. Well, one thing he doesn’t know is that I’m leaving Rome soon. I ran my mouth with other guys and they didn’t want nothing to do with the unkissable untouchable temporary girl, I don’t want to ruin this with my mouth so…I like you, but I cant tell you I’m leaving, and this might hurt but…today’s date was awesome…14 days to go

I know it’s mean but, it’s my dilemma.