#SHIPAfrica Africa and the Girl (International Day of the Girl Child)

In many African communities, girls are still not considered children. They do not need to be sent to school, they have no inheritance and sometimes their mother is sent away for not being able to bear a male child. As if boys are better. Words will fail me to recount all the episodes we have had, for being just girls, at the time.

Empower girls, empower women, educate communities!

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ASK “WHAT ARE YOU AFRAID OF?” not “WHO DO YOU THINK YOU ARE?”

 

 

Fear and Pride both go before a fall, be understanding and patient enough to tell the difference.Β People rashly mistake FEAR 4 PRIDE. Someone who walks away or refuses to show up to have his work analysed or criticized would easily be mistaken for being proud. Many times too when you delay an apology, people conclude that you are proud, when in fact you’re scared of being rejected.

A lot more thought should go into our human relationships, people are not simple, babies are. Life makes us complex so be more curious about why people act the way they do. To lead, mentor, be a good parent, guardian or just friend, you should try to use the other perspective. Although some reactions are pretty obvious, even anger can be an expression of fear! relax…take it easy πŸ™‚

WHY DON’T YOU LIKE ME? – Pushing love away

 

Been seeing some posts about someone not loving you back and it’s their bad luck because they pushed away the person who loved them.

Do people just feel that their love does someone a favour just because it’s love? It’s really hard to push someone away because you can’t love them back but it’s better to let them go than to stay with them because they love to love you. I think I’d rather let a person go find someone who loves them back than to let them stay while I get love at their expense.

 

Everyone has reasons…the heart wants what the heart wants, if it’s not you, it’s not you, and if they let you stay, they’ll suffer, and they still will explode one day that you’re smothering them…take your love somewhere else without making it look like those people are terrible people..we all have choices to make. The choice may have been hard for them too.

 

When people tell me “I will stop calling you” or “I won’t text you anymore” I wonder what they want me to do with that information, I still won’t reply, that wasn’t a threat because I don’t feel endangered, you just took a big yoke off my neck. If I liked liked you, I wouldn’t give you a reason to feel like you need to go away. And you can quietly go away without reading lines off a script.

 

Do not go about feeling like you are the saviour of someone’s life because you love them or buy things for them or chat with them or run to rescue them when they need a knight in shining armor, all these things are good, but sometime’s they feel bad for themselves, and for you, because some things won’t change…and don’t push for reasons because you may never recover from their excuse. Just thank them, wish them the best and go.

 

I know this is really hard, trust me. But don’t hate or make fun of a person because they couldn’t like you back. That’s just sour grapes. I am sure you too have some people that you can’t love back or cannot imagine being with. It’s not karma, it’s the great circle of life…lol

 

I hope we all find someone, and if we never do, I hope that we still live happy lives, but don’t even think that your love is good for some particular person just because love is somewhat scarce.

 

If someone makes you feel like they don’t want…nicely understand. You are both in very difficult places, be understanding, don’t be selfish, if it’s love, wish them well lovingly and move on. Grapefruits are not grapes and lemons are not oranges, it’s crazy but it’s this stupid thing you guys call love

Your Life happens once in a Lifetime

Dare up! You got this!

Dare up! You got this!

You can be everything you want to be if there’s enough time, and if someone believes in you and supports you.

With kind words, a helping hand, a network, some money or an education.

Stay awake, even if no one stands by you, stand strong

You can achieve if you don’t give up, so cheer up and dare up!

You got this!..keep moving and help will come, stop waiting and take charge, help is on the way πŸ™‚

Because You Seem Brighter

stop playing safeBecause you’re beautiful, you will be hated

Because you’re smart, you wil be despised

Because you’re rich, you will be talked about

because you’re making good decisions, you will be put down

Because you feel good about yourself, you will be misunderstood

Heart gets broken, yet we still love

Stop playing safe, live life the best way that you can

And let people be people

Yes, people will be people

Another species of social animals that walk on twos, eat, poop and talk

Is that all you’re worried about?

Someone like you?

But someone less motivated?

Soaked in rivalry and unhealthy competition?

Is that enough?

Shouldn’t that push you further on?

You’re stronger than this, you know…

You’re stronger

The crown is heavy, but remain on the brighter side…

 

Video of Birthday Celebration from All Over The World for Her Excellency Patience Ambode

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Here’s a woman I’d like you to meet πŸ™‚

Yes with all the unfair treatments in the world, there are still some people whose joy you share and whose testimony you celebrate from afar, unknown to you that one day, your paths will cross sweetly and unforgettably.

Besides my sweet mum, who remains the sweetest and most sacrificing woman in my life, God has shown me favour immensely through some of his people on earth.

I could say the story of how we met but I don’t know if you’ll be patient enough to read that episode through because I want you to watch this video fast….hehe

Thank you for being a sweet part of my life Mummy Ambo…