ASK “WHAT ARE YOU AFRAID OF?” not “WHO DO YOU THINK YOU ARE?”

 

 

Fear and Pride both go before a fall, be understanding and patient enough to tell the difference.Β People rashly mistake FEAR 4 PRIDE. Someone who walks away or refuses to show up to have his work analysed or criticized would easily be mistaken for being proud. Many times too when you delay an apology, people conclude that you are proud, when in fact you’re scared of being rejected.

A lot more thought should go into our human relationships, people are not simple, babies are. Life makes us complex so be more curious about why people act the way they do. To lead, mentor, be a good parent, guardian or just friend, you should try to use the other perspective. Although some reactions are pretty obvious, even anger can be an expression of fear! relax…take it easy πŸ™‚

#SHIPAfrica Scholarship: Letter to the Finalists

 

 

 

A few hours to announce the Winner of the #SHIPAfrica #SHIPCampaign Scholarship and I wrote this email to all of the five finalists:

 

Dear Candidate,

This message is personally from Love.

I really want to let you all know that I am proud of you beyond words, Uzoma, Obende, Sunday, Ifeoluwa and Martha (in no particular order).

I wish that I had increased the number of winners and I still wish I could give a consolation prize.

But you do not need to be consoled. There is no loser. You are with me and you should know that you have someone to talk to if you need any assistance. I do not have all the answers, I am a student just like you. I know what it feels like to study in Nigeria and how frustrating the system can be sometimes. Studying abroad really opened my eyes to many things and I know that it is possible to replicate some of the best practices at home.

I loved all your essays and you are all winners.

I have tried as much as possible to get you nothing but the best mentors. Not just mentors that I could reach but mentors who are objectively the best in their field and in mentoring young people and doing great things for Africa and that I feel honoured to know.

The goal is such that you will value your mentors more highly than the N100,000 and whoever wins will also feel more accomplished knowing that they have been assigned to a certain mentor, than basing their accomplishment on the cash prize.

The judges keep sending in comments and recommendations and I can tell you, as a thing of pride, that you people have made it very difficult to pick a winner. I want you to see the cash money as a trophy (whoever wins it), the mentors are the real prize!

Here is a list of the mentors, you will each be assigned to one.

  • Anne Ezeh
  • Linus Okorie
  • Ayo Adegboye
  • Rex Idaminabo
  • Dr. Mininim Oseji*

One mentor is yet to respond, hence the 4 names above (*honoured to say that 6am this morning, Sunday morning, Dr Oseji replied my message, sent to her just yesterday). You can do your research on them and let me know if you have any particular preference. However, we have analysed your profiles and locations and may have to assign you based on the mentor we feel would match your profile and your future projects. The mentorship process will start in September/October since most of the mentors have to travel for the summer or for conferences.

Be nice to them. Show them what you are made of, let them know you are ready. For some of you, this is the beginning of a life-long partnership, for some of you, the mentors may just give youΒ  a few words of advise and the link will be cut off. But these are very busy people and I hope you understand. These are people who have believed in me and watched me grow. The speed of their positive response to mentor you is beyond me, and I hope you make them feel proud to know you, and not just the other way round. I have bragged about you to them, keep doing Africa proud!

 

Thank you and Kind regards,

Love

 

Let’s chat…You, Me, And a Camera!

Our first interview is at 1:30pm with the top video entry, but let’s see.

 

We had great essays too, OMG 😲 😡, Nigeria, behold your thinkers!!! Your Researchers!!! The people who will lead you to a  better future, if you give them a chance!

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I am really excited, I hope that I am not disapointed, but I am definitely sure that these top 5 will impress our mentors. Oh, that reminds me, I need to get in touch with the mentors..but my exams 😭 πŸ˜“ πŸ˜ͺΒ o no, so much to do, God help me.

And congratulations to our finalists, although they may never see this blog..hehehe

 

NEVER SAY NEVER 😈

Alright, have a lovely day.

The Pocket Money Scholarship and Dilemma

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I’m so stressed, I can’t even put it in words, struggling around not having my mastercard and now having to deal with good essay dilemmas ::: GOOD PROBLEMS, TIRED GIRL… #STRONG

I am finally at the other side of the computer, where the emails from candidates go.

It’s been two months since the campaign for the SHIP pilot scholarship ended and a month since the last submission we received.

This delay is due, in part, to all the stress I have had to go through since the 30th of April, in my life, and in part, maybe 20 percent, to school work.

I am extremely fatigued. My friends who I esteemed to be more than worthy to be judges for the essay did not fail me, I was mostly impressed by my married friend who has two kids,yet she put in all this diligence and time into marking the submissions I sent to her and she also sent remarks and voice notes commending the best and commenting on all of them , literally all. Girl Power!!! We’ll discuss that later πŸ™‚

 

Another friend of mine, whom I have not been in touch with but admired from afar online was contacted and she instantly replied, it made me feel so much joy, all the judges, including the lecturer among them, completely surprised me. All my friends did me proud and helped make this marking impartial, unbiased and I love them all.

 

The anonymous marking was effective, almost all the grades from the judges were about the same per criteron, but at some point, we had to break ties, and there goes the dilemma. Only one winner, and I remembered what my sisters told me before I put out the announcement:, “Make it two winners and split it 50-50” lol, I should have listened.

 

But I really want a student with passion and zeal for improvement in the country to be awarded with the N100,000. Nigeria hardly rewards smart students.

The money I put down was supposed to be a charity for a student, I just wanted to reach out and connect to a student from a low-income home and shower the person with love, saying, don’t stress, here, buy what you need and read without thinking too much about the next meal or hostel rent. But the problem was choosing who it would be given to, and that’s why the competition was lunched. A part of me wants to give something to all the winners, or at least 3, but everything comes back down to me not having my Mastercard. Don’t get me wrong, their money is ready, it has been ready in naira in Nigeria since before the call was advertised, but to put in more money, or to even make the promise, I need to be able to transfer money home, and I can’t do that for the same long story that has got me confused and running around catch 22 since the beginning of May.

 

We got good essays, there will be a telephone interview, I want to give it to a student who had a good essay and who needs the money because their parents can’t afford to pay their way through school. So, God help me. I’m going to pray. I am at that side of the computer where the emails go, I am the one the candidates are indirectly referring to when they pray to win, so let God’s will be done, and let the person whose destiny it is to win this, take it home, and when I do get my Mastercard back from Rome, I “MAY” have to assist any other student who was part of the competition and from a low income background with some money for the next session.

GOD HELP ME…HELP ME GET THROUGH THIS, THANK YOU FOR THE STRENGTH, THANK YOU FOR THE SUPPORT OF FRIENDS AND FAMILY AND HELP ME DO THE RIGHT THING. AMEN

There’s a fighter in you that always wins

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We have to learn to try again, there is more strength inside you than you are aware of.

In chasing big or small life goals, sometimes, we win, sometimes we lose, sometimes we give up thinking that we have done all we can, but in one instant, when it feels as if everything is about to fall apart, you will find your fight.

When you ask yourself what else should I do? How else do I go about this? Who else should I meet? And all the ideas come today like you just took the NZT pill in the movie “Limitless”, that’s when you take the next action like your future depends on it and you will win, it’s guaranteed, you may not win as you had hoped you would, the result may exceed your expectation or simply bring you to discover a newer side of you, but put in your best..try all your options, be truly satisfied.β™₯️β™₯️β™₯️

It’s not over until your joy is full.